Where did we get the idea that "love" means indulgence? That, for instance, to love a child means to spoil that child? That to love a neighbor means condoning everything he does - from sexual perversion to addictive behavior?
Love means setting boundaries and honoring them - this is why God's greatest gift of love before He sent Jesus was sending the Law. We don't like boundaries, but without them there is no shape, no form, and one thing blends into another. And the word for that is hell.
For those of you wondering what I mean by the word Modern - the great hallmark of the modern world is just this: no boundaries - fuzziness, blur, formlessness: no borders in life, no definition or backbone in the Church, no belief in the reality of form, and hence no ability to think.
And yet in our families and our friendships and our vocations, it comes down to this - love without boundaries and you'll soon find that you can't love at all.
The Sacred Heart sits atop the Sacred Backbone.