Monday, October 14, 2013

Born of Porn



I haven't seen the movie, but I've read the article.  Which includes this (emphasis mine) ...

"This, it seems to me, is the real risk attached to pornography. Those who become addicted to this risk-free form of sex run a risk of another and greater kind. They risk the loss of love, in a world where only love brings happiness,” [Roger Scruton said].
And there’s the rub. If porn affects individual men and women, then it affects relationships. It prevents the possibility of an us. Porn sells the idea that you can, literally, put a person on pause, fast-forward through the messiness of human feelings and foibles to the “good parts,” and, when you are through, discard him or her for another. The tragedy, Scruton recognizes, is that while glutting a person’s sexual appetites, porn risks thwarting another human desire: to give love.
This is what is captured in the poignant line from Moore’s character in Don Jon: “If you want to lose yourself, you have to lose yourself in another person. And she has to lose herself in you. It’s a two-way thing.”

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The popularity of pornography has been fostered, perhaps, in part by a larger cultural tendency toward individualism, a perception that relationships are primarily tools used by an individual on his or her solo journey of self-understanding and satisfaction. 


2 comments:

Whimsy said...

When the pope says loneliness is a great evil he speaks like a man who has heard many confessions. How can we look at the massive problem of porn and not be convinced there is a plague of loneliness?

Paul Stilwell said...

I agree with Whimsy.

I like Scruton and agree as far as it goes (which isn't far enough). Like when he says, "porn risks thwarting another human desire: to give love."

Well, yes, all except for that "risks" part.

I think people are willing and wanting to see that porn is bad, or unhealthy, but ultimately the evil of porn has to cause one to face those realities about ourselves and our world that we have trouble admitting: that sex is meant for marriage, and at that, under the veil of intimacy, and at that, open to procreation.

And that means admitting that even "non-graphic" depictions of sex/sexual acts in Hollywood movies - as we are so very used to seeing - are not right, are an offense to God.

And admitting that...well, you'll definitely not be admitted into the Catholic cool club.