- There are certain people who will treat you with contempt no matter what you do, no matter what you offer them in the way of graciousness or good will. It is a mistake to think that by offering kindness and forgiveness we will get similar treatment back in return. We should offer without thought of return, and without bitterness when our graciousness is spurned - though that requires a kind of heroic virtue.
Rather, love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them, expecting nothing in return. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind even to ungrateful and evil people. (Luke 6:35)
- Women's sexuality is a much deeper and more mysterious thing than men's. Guys don't really care what they do with their naughty bits, as long as they do something. Women, however, understand instinctively on a very deep level the connection between sex and love and sex and motherhood and sex and the family. Thus, when women go wrong sexually, it's a more disturbing thing, both in its origin and in its result. Sexual perversion or acting out in guys is a more superficial symptom than it is in women.
- The reform of the culture is happening, though you'd never guess if you looked at the overall picture. It's happening independently, all across the country, here and there with grass roots origins. It's happening because of people who are called, who are answering the call, and who are suffering in order to answer the call.
- The key is to love without expecting to be loved in return, even though we have a claim to reciprocation in justice. But this does not mean squandering His seed by continuing to sow where the seed is being habitually rejected. We must love, but disinterestedly, which is to say without investment or hope of interest or return. For God gives the increase (1 Cor. 3:7). This is why we are to kick the dust off our shoes and move on when his word is rejected (Mat. 10:14) - because the increase is not our business, and if we get too invested, we are less able to give God the credit; we are more tempted to take ownership and to make the actions of others our own business.
- People will sometimes forgive you if you have harmed them. They will almost never forgive you if they have harmed you. Shame and the attempt to distance ourselves from it causes most of the problems between people. The easiest way to avoid shame is to blame the other person somehow for the wrong you've done to him or her.
- To illustrate that, I've told this story before. Once I had a client who owed me $600. They went months without paying, lying to me that the check was in the mail, etc. When I finally had to get a bit nasty with them, I suddenly became the villain, the source of all the trouble. They were in debt to me and I was the bad guy for insisting upon my rights.