|Single Catholic guy "discerning".|
Having witnessed a few mating dances at the Chesterton Conference this past weekend, the weird and distressing situation among single Catholics mystifies me.
A Facebook friend has drawn my attention to an article by Devin Rose entitled Single Catholic Guy - Wake Up!
Here's how it begins ...
... the rest of the article features more or less stupid advice, but the above is on the money.It’s never been a better time to be a single Catholic guy.Why? Because there are thousands of lovely, faithful young Catholic women waiting for you to step up to the plate and court them!Yet many Catholic guys are unsure about themselves, uncertain, dithering, wavering, vicissitudening. Stop it! In Christ, with the power of the Holy Spirit, you can change this and face your fears, be courageous, bold, and manly. It’s not about being a boor, or having enormous muscles (though it wouldn’t hurt to go work out), or swaggering around like you’re Tom Cruise after a Scientology retreat. It’s about being yourself and living up to who God made you to be.
It's apparently pretty bad out there. Many beautiful, intelligent devout single Catholic women I've known have trouble finding anything but losers or ambi-sexuals who are too busy "discerning" to realize what God made them to be and to do. There seems to be a shortage of Catholic men who are simply men. Or, perhaps, who are straight. The lack of sexual activity during courtship doesn't even seem to be a motivating factor for marriage for many of these guys - which is not a good sign.
In fact, I've known more than a few women deliberately marrying guys who were gay - or guys who were "struggling with same sex attraction" - thinking they could marry them and reform them.
This never works. It's a recipe for disaster. Life long disaster.
And I've known other Catholic women whose husbands were straight, and who showed an interest in them, but who had such serious psychological problems that their lives together became a nightmare. Invariably, these women knew how disturbed their husbands were before marrying them, but married them anyway thinking they had no other good options.
And hard as it is to understand, this is perhaps the most significant area in which young Catholic women are called upon to trust God and to have the courage to engage in real life and real men. Unreality often dominates the lives of devout Christians, however, and Matrimony, which is dying in the secular world, also suffers greatly even in Catholic circles.
The vocations crisis is not just in the Catholic priesthood.